Moving Anxiety: When You’re Forced To Let Go
Moving anxiety can escalate the stress of relocation.
Before I moved back to Georgia my life, to put it mildly, was a mess.
I had recently experienced gut-wrenching breakup, my last semester of college left me mentally and physically drained. I was weighed down with a feeling of loss because I would never see most of my friends again. I had planned to stay in Birmingham but the job I had lined up fell through. I didn’t have the financial means to continue living in the beautiful city I had grown to love and see as home.
A week before my departure I sat alone in my small apartment, surrounded by accumulated clutter and a James Dean poster that had never been hung. I wondered how I was going to manage getting everything organized to go back to Atlanta.
I was face to face with raw, intimidating moving anxiety.
Even when you’ve created a timeline, budgeted your moving costs, and organized your boxes, relocating is a difficult task. Add emotional stress and the lack of control—perhaps economic crisis or divorce—and everything feels more complicated, more difficult, and even more overwhelming.
It’s not all doom and gloom. There are steps you can take to ease moving anxiety.
When facing the challenges of a move in a time of stress it’s important to take care of yourself first before trying to tackle boxes, timelines, budgets etc.
Don’t Be Hard On Yourself. It’s easy to tell yourself, “I can’t do this.” Or to dwell on the choices that may have gotten you to this point. You have to give yourself a break and go from ‘no’ to ‘know.’ Language is a powerful thing, and has great influence on how we deal any circumstance. So instead of saying, “No, I can’t do this,” ask yourself, “I know I’m having trouble organizing—what can I do to make it easier?” Instead of, “No I can’t move this sofa,” ask yourself, “I know moving this sofa will be difficult—what is the best way to tackle the problem?” Before you realize it, you’ll have a pen in hand, jotting down lists, taking inventory, and getting your move on the right track.
Purge. No, not like the movie—please, NOT LIKE THE MOVIE. I’m talking about your stuff. There is a book called “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” that did alter my whole approach to organization in a very real, very intense way. However, if you’re on a time crunch or just don’t like reading I can give you a quick footnote: Purging feels GOOD (again not like the movie). That doesn’t mean throwing everything away. Donating to Goodwill is a great way to get a tax deduction. You can put cash faster in your pocket and host a garage sale. Purging can be a great way to relieve stress and ‘detox’ your life. I can honestly testify burning that stupid James Dean poster my ex gave me was best form of stress relief.
Ask For Help. Your friends can do more than haul boxes. They are there for emotional support. Saying goodbye is never easy especially when it is under difficult circumstances. Yet asking for help when facing moving anxiety can relieve the tension—possibly even make things a little fun.
If you have to leave quickly and indiscreetly Best Deal Movers can help. Give our office a call and speak with one of our moving specialists; we are sensitive to awkward and difficult situations. We will move you as privately as possible to avoid attention. Be sure to check our PACKING SERVICES and FAQ website sections for help with being prepared for our full service moving crew’s arrival; being well prepared will make your move quicker and quieter!